The Importance of Love in Relationships
Love is one of life’s strongest forces, a force that can overcome mountains, can destroy the strongest relationships, and can make the weak strongest. Love encompasses such a wide range of positive and negative emotional states, from an unconditionally loving habit or virtue, the widest human connection, to the weakest sexual experience. Regardless of how strong we may try to deny it, there is always a part of us that yearns for love. When it comes to love there are no exceptions, every person and every relationship can find love at any time in their lives.
Many of us have experienced love at some point in our lives. We know how love makes us feel: we feel uplifted, inspired, renewed, and with a sense of purpose. It can be expressed as physical love such as love made to another person, but can also be expressed in more subtle ways such as being in love with a friend or even just being in a group of people who share our common interests. Having an ongoing healthy relationship with our partner or spouse is one of the best ways to express love, and to ensure that love stays a central and positive force in our lives.
Unfortunately, one of the largest barriers to feeling love is our own desire to feel it, or to make someone else feel it, rather than simply having a deep connection and feeling that love would make us whole, and stronger individually. As much as we would like to, lust does not always equal love. Instead, we get caught up in lusting after another person, instead of exploring our own individual feeling for one another. When this happens we get caught up in being consumed by lust and are unable to move forward with a long-term relationship.
True love includes strong feelings, such as affection, compassion, trust, and empathy. Empathetic love makes others feel needed and desired; it is a powerful motivating force for all relationships. Trust is crucial to building strong feelings between people; it allows people to be honest and open with one another. The sharing of this information provides insight that creates healing within the relationships. Connecting with others on an intimate level is crucial to creating long-term meaningful relationships, and understanding that true affection and love include feelings as well as thoughts.
True loving someone means you give your complete attention, respect, commitment, devotion, and time to that person. You cannot become a loving person if you ignore, neglect, or delay giving your full dedication to another human being. Instead of getting caught up in the moment and acting out of the need to get your emotions in check, focus fully on giving your full attention to loving someone else and helping them. This will create feelings of love and compassion, which will draw you closer to your special someone.
Real love means you give yourself completely to another human being. You can have passionate love, adoration, and total dedication towards another human being; however, these feelings must be expressed with complete trust and respect. You must let go of your fear of offending another individual if you truly wish to find true intimacy with another individual. You can feel like a person who is completely open and available to another person; but if you avoid getting close with another because of your fear of offending them, you will never really feel like yourself. Finding true love means you must be willing to open up your heart and mind and allow yourself to be vulnerable to another individual if it leads you to a greater sense of love and compassion.