The Power of Attraction in Romantic Relationships
Have you ever noticed how people fall in love easily? Have you ever fallen for someone without ever really thinking about them or their likes and dislikes? Do you fall for people even when they do not treat you with the same respect as you deserve? Are you one of those people who go through life wondering where the love went? These questions may seem awkward at first, but if you want to know what love is all about, then you need to look deeper into this topic.
Romantic love is a group of complex emotions and behaviors typically characterized by intense passion, intimacy, devotion, emotional support, love, affection, and trust in a relationship. It normally involves reciprocity, sharing, attachment, responsibility, preference, variety, intensity, and freedom. Romantic love can range from mild to extreme, with one person feeling the love for another person almost exclusively. However, it can also change over time, with all its various shades and intensities. It is typically associated with an assortment of positive emotions, such as happiness, enthusiasm, novelty, newness, peace, and joy, but it can also come with jealousy, hostility, resentment, fear, anger, boredom, apathy, depression, anxiety, guilt, humiliation, resentment, blame, stress, irritation, resentment, uncertainty, and boredom.
The first and most obvious emotion associated with romantic love is attraction. This is the universal force that makes a relationship work. Attraction is the key to forming strong emotional bonds with another person. A relationship which relies on attraction is highly unstable, often suffering from insecurity and poor self-esteem due to a lack of closeness. This lack of closeness can cause a variety of painful interpersonal relationships to arise, such as infatuation, boredom, sexual intimacy, physical intimacy, infatuation, dependence, and jealousy. Even though everyone feels attracted to some extent, this isn’t true closeness.
Another important emotion involved in romantic love relationships is trust and empathy. These two emotions are related to feelings of intimacy and safety, which are the foundations of any meaningful relationship. Both people involved are drawn to each other because of their similarities in core traits; shared values, beliefs, hobbies, opinions, fears, desires, etc…
When a couple begins to fall into the love rollercoaster, they experience alternating feelings of intense attraction and intense anxiety. They may be falling into love with each other, yet very quickly they are separated when these feelings subside. This can lead to the two people feeling disconnected and separated from each other, which leads to an even more serious problem: distance. Distance can dramatically reduce feelings of intimacy and closeness. When a couple experiences this constant yo-yo in their relationships, they are at increased risk for separation and even infidelity.
The good news is that there are a variety of strategies that couples can use to prevent these feelings of detachment. By making time to be together as a couple, developing deep connections through shared activities and adventures, giving each other permission to be who they are without criticism, support, or judgment, and listening to one another’s hurts and joys, relationships can thaw out and return to loving, satisfying, loyal, committed, soulful, lifelong relationships. The more effort that is put into creating loving relationships, the more fulfilling those relationships will be and the easier they will be to maintain. In the words of the popular song by the American band Fall Out of Love, “Reach for the sky instead of the ground”. Reach for the sky instead of the ground. You’ll be glad you did.