Love Formula – Can We Develop That Which Will Make Love the Most Attractive Force?
Most of us have heard of love at some point. We all know that love makes the world go ’round’ and that it is the greatest gift there is. Love is the greatest of all life’s emotions. The word itself comes from the Greek word ‘kosmos’, which means ‘that which brings together’. Love is one of the most important human emotions, since it is the driving force that keeps everything in existence. The following are just four of the main theories proposed as to what love is, and why it occurs.
Love, in the scientific community, is often described in a triangular theory, where there is the feeling of love for another person, then a desire, then another person and finally the idea that you have ‘fallen in love’ with this other person. Love is so fundamental a human emotion that there is only really one theory on love as explained by the psychologist Carl Jung – and that is that we are in a ‘matrix’ of love with another person. That is the foundation of all psychology. However, since there is such a great deal of contradictory information about love on the internet, psychologists have developed their own special version of it, called the ‘versus hypnosis’ theory.
According to this theory, there is no hard-wired circuit in the human brain that actually matches up with our emotional responses to romantic love or passionate love. Instead, there are billions of pathways in the brain that fire off in different ways when we are feeling different kinds of emotions. In general, these pathways will make us feel good and attracted to others, or happy and contented, respectively. However, there are some conditions in which the pathway for passionate love or romantic love is much stronger than the rest, which can lead to other, more intense kinds of emotions – especially in the case of violent or aggressive relationships.
This is one reason why we have such a great variety of different kinds of feelings towards another person. When you are in a committed relationship, you are always feeling attracted towards your partner. However, if the relationship is not deep enough, then those feelings will be much less powerful. You may find that the more committed you become to another person, the stronger your feelings become, until eventually you find yourself unable to function without that other person.
The idea is that, in all types of relationships, those intimate feelings that occur between people are driven by desire. This means that the more that we want something, the stronger we can drive it. If we don’t want something, then we will not desire it – or we will be unable to feel driven to desire it. If the desire for something is stronger in some areas of our lives than in others, that can be an indication of a problem. If we see our relationships as being based upon love and closeness, but feel distant from our partners, then this too can be a warning sign.
When we look at the lives of those who find themselves in happy relationships, we find that they have closeness and love but are also capable of seeing the other person as a partner in many ways. These people know what love is, how to give love and how to feel love. The difference between this group and those in unhappy relationships is that those in happy couples are actively searching for their partners and in building long-lasting relationships. The unhappy people do not know the formula for love. What they seem to lack is the awareness of the emotional energy of two people so closely connected together.